EXPRESSIONS OF PRUDENCE
Love ~ One of the most misunderstood words in the history of all words; in my opinion. Out of all the words found in the dictionary, I believe this is one word that needs to be re-defined and understood in a more accurate and modern manner. After all, the power to define is the power to fulfill! What does society, as a whole, understand it to be? How does history depict this word to look like? From what source has this word been mostly defined from and which is the most appropriate source?
These are some questions I’ve asked myself over the years and found an interesting truth that needs to be investigated, addressed and re-instated in all dictionaries and/or renewed in the minds of all mankind. People all around the world are using this word to express their feelings toward one another, but have no idea of its true meaning. With that in mind, I am here to submit to you that love is more than a 4-letter word of emotion or feeling. Love is not a feeling or emotion, that’s more like the word passion, but true love is a decision, a choice of one’s will! It sets a level of commitment in order to move forward in whichever direction it leads.
To illustrate my point, I want to talk about a dog I know that kept coming back, after years of mistreatment. I am talking about good ole’ Felix, a Golden Retriever, that had been treated unfairly for the majority of his life. From the looks of his body, he had appeared to have been through some wars with scars and bald spots in random places throughout his body, but there was only one owner, Mr. Rogers, to blame for each of the marks. You see, Mr. Rogers, a 62 year old Alcoholic, treated ole’ Felix like a punching bag after his wife left him. The dog realized the loss that his master had and chose to never leave, nor turn away from him no matter what happened. Now because this choice was made, I believe the challenge came to ole’ Felix and it came with no delay.
10 years ago, Mr. Roger’s experienced a devastating divorce that caused his heart to harden and transform him from a soft and kind gentleman into a bitter and evil man. Whenever he’d get emotionally turned upside down, he’d find ole’ Felix and kick him, smack him, scratch him, or even push him down the stairs. Each time this occurred, ole’ Felix would get up, run to his corner of the basement, lick his wounds and return to his master and lick his face! This was the lick of love that ole’ Felix communicated each time he was mistreated. Ole’ Felix has been through it all, from being starved for a week, left outside to have the freedom to run away, and even had his leg rolled over by Mr. Roger’s car, but each time ole’ Felix returned to Mr. Rogers and licked his face.
Do you know a dog like ole’ Felix? Have you seen the unconditional love that such a creature can have for another living being? This is the same kind of love that I believe all relationships should have as a foundation and priority. Having the wherewithal to return to the person that scorned you, over and over again and not turn away and end the relationship entirely is not an easy task, but is exactly what True Agape, or Unconditional Love is all about.
The World has been sadly mistaken the meaning of that word called Love. I’ve found that Love has been programmed by Movies, Media TV, Radio, Books, etc. to be an emotion or a feeling. Love happens to be in the formula to creating a successful movie script, or Television program. Look at the endings of most movies, Hollywood has made it clear that they believe that relationships are as strong as the love between one another! This façade of such a powerful force is half the story. Love is not a feeling, it’s not an emotion, it’s simply a decision and act of one’s will to cover all wrong doings against that person and return to them with a new slate, new opportunity or another chance to make things right. True Agape Love is the glue, the 1 important ingredient that causes all couples to come back together; it’s because of this thing called l-o-v-e, Love.
For the sake of expressing what Agape Love is, one must also know Who Love Is! God is Love and the love that He walks in is the most powerful force known to man! I’m not trying to get all spiritual with this, but I do want to pull out the importance of why we all should love as God loved! Look at the love of a parent with his/her child; they have agape or unconditional love towards their children. This love has nothing to do with emotions or feelings, but a decision to say, I am going to love this person in spite of what they do, say or have! Conditions such as when things are going well shouldn’t be the only time one should love another person. It’s at times of challenge, pain and disappointment that Agape Love should kick in and the “in spite of…” decision is revealed.
So what… if a person changes their image from skinny to overweight, that shouldn’t be the condition to turn away from them! So what… if a person chooses to go against your beliefs and traditions with their lifestyle, your feet should not turn away from them or change direction. Sooo WHAT… if you get a divorce and can’t make it right with your ex-spouse, that doesn’t mean that you can’t be cordial and be friends again. You may be able to learn how to be a better person from that same ex, simply because they can reveal to you mistakes made and help you to improve for your next relationship! You should continue to show these individuals the same level of attention, care and concern as before, maybe not in the same capacity, but at least in the ball park to have them hit you with a ball of support if needed.
To wrap up this article, I want to inform you of how ole’ Felix and Mr. Rogers are doing today. I am happy to announce that Mr. Rogers isn’t kicking and screaming at ole’ Felix any more. Mr. Rogers isn’t releasing his pain and anger out on his faithful friend. Because ole’ Felix chose to return back to Mr. Rogers in spite of the pain he felt, he was able to save Mr. Roger’s life when he fell down the stairs himself. Ole’ Felix was found faithfully by his side after barking up a storm out a window of their home and grabbed the attention of the neighbors, which ended up saving Mr. Roger’s life! Now, the two of them are the best of friends, not because of the time they spent together, not because of the relationship between the dog and his master, but because ole’ Felix simply chose to return and love his master in spite of…
Expressions of Prudence: Unconditional Love
By: Raymond Pretlor ~ RaymondLives4U@Gmail.com ~ @RaymondLives
April 2, 2017